Is It A Really Good Idea To Make Friends With Death?

By Amy Brucker

Years ago, when I was studying shamanism, I did a shamanic journey to meet my inner healer. I didn’t have specific expectations of what I’d find. I thought it would be a wise old woman or a white bearded man. But that’s not what showed up. Instead, I met Death.

Death came to me, cloaked in a ubiquitous black robe, shadows where the face should have been. I looked at him and panicked.

Did this mean I was dying?

Did this mean I was sick?

What did this mean?!

When the journey was over, I met with my teacher and told her I failed the exercise. I saw Death, not my Inner Healer. She looked at me and said, “There are two aspects of the Inner Healer, Death is one of them.”

Huh?

Death as an Ally

If you don’t make friends with Death, you can’t heal. Instead, you end up carrying your disappointments and disruptions around like heavy baggage, and all it does is weigh you down.

The relationship you thought was going to be “the one” but turned out to be “the biggest betrayal of your life”…

The fast money you made that turned into dust just as quickly…

The diagnoses that hijacked your health and wellness…

Each one is an opportunity to face Death with purpose so you can lay your burdens to rest. It’s an opportunity to let go of that which isn’t working in your life so you can move forward and embrace something that is nurturing and more in alignment with your soul and purpose.

The problem is, Death is scary. It’s shadowed, dark, and fraught with mystery.

When you stand before death, you don’t know what to expect. All you see is a dark void. You don’t know what’s on the other side of death. You don’t know what the path forward looks like.

Because of this, it’s easy to say, “no thank you” to death, but when you do that, you end up carrying each disappointment and disruption around like weights balanced one on top of the other, creating a big, heavy burden.

Ultimately, they hold you back. You can’t experience your full potential, you can’t live life or move forward until you’ve transformed them.

Recognize Death in Your Life

If you’re pining for the “good ol’ days” chances are somewhere along the way, something happened and you never let go. Something in your life died–a relationship, your health, your finances–but when you saw Death, when you saw your opportunity to heal, you felt fear and turned your back on it. Now you’re just carrying around dead weight. The more you do that, the more difficult it becomes to let go. The more you don’t let go, the heavier you will feel.

It’s a vicious cycle.

The good news is that you can end it.

Release the Dead Stuff

Letting go can be as easy as a tree dropping leaves in autumn. All you have to do is let go. The hard part is holding on. But if you’ve been holding on tightly for decades, it can feel difficult to shrug it off.

If your hand has been gripping a hammer for an hour, unclenching the muscles feels awkward at first. There’s stiffness, maybe pain. It takes awhile to readjust to the feeling of having an open hand. Flexibility comes slowly, but the more you work the muscle, opening and closing your fingers, the easier it gets.

The same is true for soul healing. I once did a soul retrieval for a client who’d been carrying around dead weight from a work disaster. Her job had ended more than a decade ago, and she’d dealt with it to the best of her ability, but she was carrying around guilt and shame that had woven its way into her life, impacting every decision.

After the soul retrieval, her life seemed to fall apart. It felt like death after death after death. In reality, she was shedding the things she’d been holding on to that weren’t working. It was scary. Before the soul retrieval, she’d been feeling pretty good, but afterword, she felt awful.

I told her that sometimes healing is like that. It gets worse before it gets better. The best way through it is to be present with what’s happening and to know it’s temporary.

That’s the beauty of life. Nothing is permanent. Everything changes. Sometimes that’s disappointing, but other times impermanence can become a lifeline that lets you sink into your difficult experience and trust that it will get you to more inspiring times.

The more you allow that to happen, the faster the healing happens.

My client trusted my council enough to let herself surrender to her experience. She came out the other end, shining and bright, full of renewed hope and new ideas, ready to catapult herself forward into her purpose.

Holding on to the past keeps you stuck there. Trust yourself. You know how to move forward, and painful as it may be, it’s worth the letting go.

Where is Death lingering in your life, ready to help you release that which you no longer need?

That is an important question to answer.

sweet dreaming,

Amy

Honoring the Ancestors of Land, Tradition, and Blood

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As the world  (where I am at, at least!) gets bathed in frost, as the plants wither and die, as the trees bathe themselves in color and then drop their leaves, as the cold wind blows and as the darkness sets in, we in the druid tradition–and in any other traditions–turn to think about the ancestors. In this post, we’ll explore the global traditions surrounding honoring the dead that tie to August-October and honoring the dead to see similarities, we’ll discuss three types of ancestors the druid tradition recognizes, and then we’ll explore ways to honor the ancestors.

Food for the Ancestors! Food for the Ancestors!

Global Ancestral Traditions

When you start digging into ancestor traditions around the world, some striking similarities seem to emerge.

  • The Mexican Day of the Dead, which is a blending of European traditions and Aztec honoring of the dead, goes from Oct 31 – Nov 2. As part of…

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TECHNIQUES FOR WORKING WITH POWER ANIMALS

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Throughout our lives, we may encounter animals of a special nature that bring to us certain gifts of the Spirit. These are power animals… and they visit us for the purpose of sharing knowledge, giving us necessary abilities, or teaching us wisdom that it is important for us to know. These may be called familiars by some (a common European term), allies (a more common North American Indian term), totems, guides, or power animals. Different cultures and different faiths have different views on exactly what constitutes a power animal. I won’t address those distinctions here. I’m not the end-all expert in every culture’s traditional correctness! But more importantly, there are certain features of power animals and how we can relate and work with them that are true and effective regardless of what they are called.

First and of greatest importance, always understand that power animal is gifts of the Spirit…

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Totem Animals and Spirit Guides

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Totem Animals, Power Animals, Creature-teachers, Elders, Ancient Ones, and Spirit Guides are all terms used to describe different spiritual entities that will work with us as teachers, protectors, and companions. They are there to assist us as we discover ourselves and other realms of dimension where we learn the true teachings of our spirituality and path work. In meeting our Guides we may experience entities, voices, physical encounters, or shamanic journeys to which we can relate on an intimate level. How do these Guides contact us? Spirit sends them with a message to convey and they have to reach us in any way they can.

Perhaps they will nudge you to turn on the TV only to find a program that catches your eye on the subject they need to address, as a response to something you have on your mind, or as a topic you need to focus on…

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The Sphinx Moth, Butterfly and Moth Totems

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blue butterflyBy Phoenix of Elder Mountain –  A Great Ash Sphinx Moth visited Elder Mountain two years ago, and then I had a dream about a year ago in much detail, of the Brotherhood of the Sphinx (which doesn’t exist in the occult, magic or esoteric, nor middle ages documents when most writing was collected and done). I received some information about this ancient cult from the dreaming, so I decided to write about the symbolism (totem) of the Sphinx Moth, Butterfly and Moth today.

We have two symbols here to work with, the Sphinx and the Moth. Like its butterfly cousin, the moth shows the symbolism of transformation at various levels. How this equates to our life, is we are in a “longer” cycle of change (not a short one, month or year, but several years). I work with cycles and symbolism together and found over the decades that we…

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Messages From Spirit

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Monday, March 4 at 8pm est, on Candelo’s Corner, Host Tata Candelo and KDCL founder and producer Miss Paula team-up for mini readings to bring you messages from the ancestors and nfumbe.

Tata Candelo is a priest of Palo Kimbisa of more than 20 years, and Miss Paula has read Tarot more than 30. This dynamic duo has a combined 50 years experience of divination and conversing with the spirits. Call in and hear your message.