By Amy Brucker
I’m feeling surrounded by death these days. Since January 1:
My grandmother died.
The grandmother of my closest friend from high school died.
The father of my closest friend from college died.
The parents of a good friend from seminary died two days a part (and her father was my dream teacher and colleague, and her mother and I worked together on their website).
A second cousin I never met died.
My sister-in-law’s grandmother died.
All of this since January 1 and those are the ones I remember.
Is it any wonder I’ve been feeling heavy?
Soul Medicine After Death
Our grief needs a place to go. It needs to be honored and tended to or it will dam our emotions and keep us locked in the past.
But in the western world, after death, grief is put on hold while packing and paperwork take precedence. You can’t easily grieve until the bills are paid and the boxes are moved out. In the meantime, the grief sits there, unmoving. The longer it sits, the easier it is to disconnect from it, which makes it harder and harder to release when we finally have a moment to ourselves.
Still, it’s important to feel and release the grief. So how do you do it if you can no longer feel it or access it?
Flower essences are subtle yet powerful “soul medicine” that help release buried and denied emotions. You an easily make your own remedy to take when you are ready to release your grief and emotions.
Although flower essences are best when they are tailored to individual needs, here’s a remedy to help you get started. It is designed to help you release attachments that no longer serve you, disconnect in a healthy way from other people’s fears, bring calm and acceptance, and to forge a loving, lasting connection to the souls of the departed.
One 2oz glass bottle with dropper (sterilized)
1.5 oz spring water
.5 oz brandy
2 drops Bleeding Heart
2 drops Borage
2 drops Forget-Me-Not
2 drops Holly
2 drops Pink Yarrow
Add the liquid to the bottle and shake.
Dosage: 4 drops each time, 4 times a day.
You can purchase flower essences in many co-ops or health food stores, or you can purchase them directly from the Flower Essence Society http://store.fesflowers.com/.
Or, you can work with a flower essence practitioner who likely has these essences on hand and who can create a formula for you.
Personally, I love stocking up on essences because they are powerful, yet gentle, and work on an energy level to support overall health and wellness.
NOTE: taking flower essences doesn’t magically make emotions disappear. It makes them accessible. I’m taking this formula and I feel my sadness more strongly so I can process them and release them. If the emotions become too strong, you can always take fewer drops, less often.
As we enter the season of Imbolc, it’s the perfect time to access buried grief and release it so you can prepare your heart and soul for the new life that wants to take root in you.
Until we meet again…