Soul Medicine For Death And Grieving

By Amy Brucker

I’m feeling surrounded by death these days. Since January 1:

My grandmother died.

The grandmother of my closest friend from high school died.

The father of my closest friend from college died.

The parents of a good friend from seminary died two days a part (and her father was my dream teacher and colleague, and her mother and I worked together on their website).

A second cousin I never met died.

My sister-in-law’s grandmother died.

All of this since January 1 and those are the ones I remember.

Is it any wonder I’ve been feeling heavy?

Soul Medicine After Death

Our grief needs a place to go. It needs to be honored and tended to or it will dam our emotions and keep us locked in the past.

But in the western world, after death, grief is put on hold while packing and paperwork take precedence. You can’t easily grieve until the bills are paid and the boxes are moved out. In the meantime, the grief sits there, unmoving. The longer it sits, the easier it is to disconnect from it, which makes it harder and harder to release when we finally have a moment to ourselves.

Still, it’s important to feel and release the grief. So how do you do it if you can no longer feel it or access it?

Flower essences.

Flower essences are subtle yet powerful “soul medicine” that help release buried and denied emotions. You an easily make your own remedy to take when you are ready to release your grief and emotions.

Although flower essences are best when they are tailored to individual needs, here’s a remedy to help you get started. It is designed to help you release attachments that no longer serve you, disconnect in a healthy way from other people’s fears, bring calm and acceptance, and to forge a loving, lasting connection to the souls of the departed.

Supplies

One 2oz glass bottle with dropper (sterilized)

1.5 oz spring water

.5 oz brandy

Flower Essences

2 drops Bleeding Heart

2 drops Borage

2 drops Forget-Me-Not

2 drops Holly

2 drops Pink Yarrow

Add the liquid to the bottle and shake.

Dosage: 4 drops each time, 4 times a day.

You can purchase flower essences in many co-ops or health food stores, or you can purchase them directly from the Flower Essence Society http://store.fesflowers.com/.

Or, you can work with a flower essence practitioner who likely has these essences on hand and who can create a formula for you.

Personally, I love stocking up on essences because they are powerful, yet gentle, and work on an energy level to support overall health and wellness.

NOTE: taking flower essences doesn’t magically make emotions disappear. It makes them accessible. I’m taking this formula and I feel my sadness more strongly so I can process them and release them. If the emotions become too strong, you can always take fewer drops, less often.

Releasing Grief

As we enter the season of Imbolc, it’s the perfect time to access buried grief and release it so you can prepare your heart and soul for the new life that wants to take root in you.

Until we meet again…

sweet dreaming,

Amy

The Light Has A Distinct Feeling You Can Follow To Lead You Toward Joy

By Amy Brucker

I was standing at the crossroads of darkness and light.

One of my favorite clients, a woman I’d worked with for nearly two years, needed a different kind of support than I could give her. She was reluctant to end our sessions, but life was taking her in a different direction. It was time for her to move on.

Even though I’d reached the same conclusion, letting go was not easy. I wasn’t only saying good-bye to a client I loved, I was losing a significant portion of my income.

In that moment I had a choice.

I could succumb to sadness and fear at the loss of a client and income.

Or I could focus on the glimmer of light that was shining through the veil of my mood.

I latched on to the light and immediately began to feel something new emerge. I didn’t know how long it would take to come to fruition, or what would happen. But I let it guide me.

Imbolc and the Light of Hope

Imbolc (February 1) is a holiday my ancestors celebrated to acknowledge the return of Light as winter transitioned slowly into spring. This time of year is a good reminder that no matter how dark it gets, light always follows.

Sometimes when you come to a crossroads, though, there’s a path of darkness and a path of light. Although you get to choose which you follow, your choice colors your experience.

The path of darkness can be comforting. Sometimes it’s a warm cave we curl into while we regenerate after a long journey. Darkness offers shelter, provides protection, gives us the space we need to find our center again.

But it isn’t always necessary to go down the path of darkness. Sometimes that route leads to denial of new life that’s trying to emerge. Life that is ready to burst forth if we only let it in.

With my client gone, I knew I had a choice to follow the dark or the light, the sadness or the joy. I could feel the distinct energies running through me. I knew neither was right or wrong, but I also remembered the times in my life when I needlessly chose the sadness and succumbed to the suffering. I didn’t want to do that. I chose to feel the light. To revel in it. To trust the void and embrace the unknowing.

Turning to the lightness brought me to where I needed to be. The next day I signed on a new client whose needs are beautifully aligned with everything I want to be doing in my work.

The light pulled me through. I was safely on the other side.

Celebrating New Life

There is nothing wrong with the darkness. It carries the seeds of new life.

But you don’t always have to linger in the dark in order to process your pain before you can authentically move forward. You can simply acknowledge the pain, feel its existence, say hello with gratitude, let it go, and move on.

Where in your life is there a glimmer of hope shining through the darkness?

What might happen if you acknowledge the dark, but focus on the light and let everything else go?

Who might you be if you surrender to trust and have faith in Spirit, letting the light guide you toward new life?

That’s something worth contemplating.

Sweet dreams,

Amy

The Best Time To Hear Your Intuition

By Amy Brucker

Winter is the perfect time of year to develop a deeper connection to your intuition. The darkness makes it easier to tune out external stimulus so you can go within and hear yourself as well as hear Spirit.

Winter, though, isn’t always about the cold, dark months of the year. It can also be the cooler, darker times of the day (late night and early morning), or the period in between life-cycles when you’ve completed one thing but haven’t yet started something new.

This still, quiet time is a gift many Westerners ignore. We tend to fill every bit of our lives with something do to. TV. Netflix. Parties. Busy-ness. They all have their place, but when they eat up every minute of our “down time” we miss a great opportunity for connecting to our Soul.

Tonight, once everyone has gone to bed, sit in the darkness of your home. Take five, ten, or twenty minutes to sit quietly and tune in to what you perceive.

Do you feel spirits around you?

Can you hear the voice of God/Goddess talking with you?

Is your inner voice easier to hear?

Just listen. Don’t try to do anything with it. Let the voices come naturally. Observe.

If you do this for awhile, you’ll eventually be able to sense the voice of Spirit more clearly.

How you sense the voice will be unique to you. It may sound like actual voices in your mind (or as though it’s coming from outside of you). You may get blips of images. You may feel sensations.

The darkness makes it easier to notice these things, which in turn makes it easier to practice developing your intuition.

When it’s light outside, you still have access to this type of guidance, but in the light you will be distracted by external stimulus and it makes the more subtle bits of information more difficult to notice.

Practice in the dark and soon you will be able to do it in the light, too.

And have fun! This is a skill worth developing.

Sweet dreams,
Amy

Dreaming of Winter, Snow & Ice ~ The Diagnosis & The Remedy

By Amy Brucker

I love how dreams are “soul medicine” that help us cultivate wellness in mind, body, and soul.

Since it’s winter where I live, I thought I’d share how dreams of ice, snow, and blizzards have their own special “diagnosis and remedies” to help you navigate your life.

Each “diagnosis and remedy” below is general, not specific to you. Your dream will tell you what you need to know. Use this as a guideline only.

Snow and Ice

Ages ago, I dreamed I was sleeping on my bed. When I woke up, I realized it was sitting on a frozen lake that was thawing! I had to walk on cracking ice to get to shore.

The dream was telling me I was “waking up” from something, only to discover I was in a precarious situation, perhaps dealing with old “frozen emotions” that were beginning to crack open.

Of course, snow and ice can be about a lot of things in dreams, but the first thing I notice when I have these dreams is that snow and ice are frozen water. In dream-land, water is often about emotion and the unconscious. Whenever I dream of snow and ice I ask myself where I might be “freezing someone or something out” due to anger or “experiencing frozen, unprocessed emotion.”

To discover the deeper meaning of your dream, read it out loud, but instead of “ice” or “snow” say “frozen emotion.” So the dream becomes, “I’m sleeping on my bed. When I wake up, I realized the bed is positioned on frozen emotions and they’re thawing. I have to walk on cracking frozen emotions to get to shore. I’m afraid I won’t make it.”

Simple but effective.

The diagnosis: there is frozen, unprocessed emotion that is problematic.

The remedy: let the ice inform you. If thawing needs to happen, navigate with care, have support to help you through it.

Blizzard

A blizzard mixes the elements of water (unconscious, emotions) and air (Spirit). Dreaming of a blizzard might be an invitation to recognize how Spirit (air element) is stirring up emotions you haven’t wanted to process (frozen water), making your life a blurry mess until you’re able to process things, which will naturally calm them down.

The diagnosis: Spirit is moving quickly, perhaps causing fear, yet it’s an invitation for you to move or shift some energy so you can connect more freely with your life and Source.

The remedy: acknowledge your situation and lean into it instead of slipping into avoidance. Get help if you need it.

Frozen Lake

There’s a stillness to a frozen lake. It’s cold, hard surface creates a pathway, so instead of walking around the lake to get to the other side, you can just cut across the middle.

But if you’ve ever lived in a cold climate, you know that frozen lakes are not necessarily safe to walk on. If the ice is thin, you’ll fall through. It needs to be a couple feet thick in order to be able to drive on it.

So just like frozen emotions not yet processed, an icy lake is precarious, giving us a sense of false safety and security. This dream theme is a reminder that you may feel like you’ve dealt with your emotions to the point where you can safely move forward, but there is a possibility that the ice will thaw and you’ll fall more deeply into the emotion than you had intended to.

The diagnosis: you may have created patterns or behaviors of avoidance that make your life path appear easier, but it is precarious and temporary. Eventually the ice will thaw.

The remedy: contemplate the frozen quality of your life. Find a source of heat–creative outlet, therapy, shamanic healing–and begin to warm up the frozen emotions so you can process them more easily.

Summary

These are just a few ways of looking at winter themes in dreams. What layers of meaning have you uncovered?

Share them here:

sweet dreaming,
Amy

Soul Medicine For The New Year

By Amy Brucker

If you could create a soul medicine kit for yourself this year, what would be in it?
What “ailments” or habitual patterns do you experience that would require soul medicine preparations in advance ?
Would you have actual medicine? Like flower essences, herbs, and essential oils? Which ones?
Would you have crystals to help you stay grounded?
Would you integrate a soul healer/mentor who you could call or connect with any time of day or night to help you through ancestral healing?
Sweet dreams,

Amy

Are You Harboring A “Failure Fugitive”?

By Amy Brucker

In December 2013, as I completed my cancer healing journey, I told my doctor I was looking forward to the new year so I could start fresh.

New Year, New Start, New Me.

His reply, “Really? The New Year is just an arbitrary ending and beginning. It doesn’t really mean anything.”

Wrong!

We need endings and beginnings in order to stay (consciously) connected to the natural cycles of life. Honoring endings helps us release the past so we can move freely into the future. Endings help us bury our burdens, process our grief, and put it to rest. It’s only then that we can regenerate and make room for the new seeds of our lives.

In ancient times, our ancestors practiced rituals and ceremonies to mark the transitions from one season to the next. They lived on the land, and without modern day conveniences like electricity, they couldn’t divorce themselves from the endings and beginnings that stirred around them.

Trees became transitional icons, slowly cycling through the seasons, a touchstone to remind them that life is full of endings and beginnings. Life, Death, Rebirth was everywhere.

Without arbitrary endings, we cling to the past, harboring our failures like fugitives. But with arbitrary endings like New Year’s Eve, we have an opportunity to consciously release our burdens. We can let go of our failings, returning them to the earth so they become fertilizer to nourish our life-soil.

Continue reading Are You Harboring A “Failure Fugitive”?

Dealing With An Annoying Relative This Holiday Season

By Amy Brucker

Is there someone you’re dreading seeing for the holidays?

Someone that sucks the life out of you? Someone that makes everything more difficult than it needs to be?

Instead of letting that person pull you into darkness, try being a healing presence instead:

Start by connecting to Source (God, Goddess, your higher self, the Universe)
Notice the person who is upsetting you (or who has upset you in the past).
See their annoying traits as defensive postures that are protecting something vulnerable.
Conjure up empathy for their situation.
See beyond their defenses.
See them as needing love and support.
Look at them with the eyes of Divine Love. (Connect with your heart and when you look at them, feel your heart shining through your eyes.)
Give them some love.
Open to Source for guidance on what needs to be said, done, or given in that moment. Don’t try to force this to happen. Just let it come to you.
Do it.

Are You Listening with Resistance or Presence?

When you listen to someone, you can listen with resistance or with an open heart.

If you listen with resistance, you might have an inner conversation that sounds like, “Dear God, when will they shut up?” If you do this, you’ll end up feeling exhausted, depleted, and ready to leave because you’re fighting against what’s happening, and that requires a lot of energy.

But if you listen with presence, with an open heart, practicing the above process, you might be surprised at what can happen. You might help that person move beyond their pain, even if just a little bit, so they can experience some light shining on their darkness.

I’m not suggesting you spend hours listening to Aunt Betty complain for hours about her ex-husband Joe, but try this process and see what happens.

If you need to, wear a talisman to help you remember. A bracelet or ring is a good option because you’ll see it whenever you look down. Before you go, charge the talisman with your intention to be present and look through the eyes of Divine Love.

Share with me what happens!

Merry Christmas and Happy Kwanzaa to those who celebrate,
Amy

Source: Is there an annoying relative you want to avoid this holiday season?

Here’s A SOULstice Ritual

By Amy Brucker

It’s going to be dark this week–new moon, solstice–so I created a SOULstice ritual to support your journey.

But first, a few thoughts about the darkness…

The Descent into Darkness

When all that’s familiar is stripped away, you’re left with darkness.

Some people tremble with fear when they encounter this place. Others revel in the mystery, using it as an opportunity to discover the depths of their being.

The choice is yours, but what you do here influences your entire life.

The ancient Greek myth about Persephone illustrates this struggle, but it also gives clues about the best way to move forward.

Persephone is innocence personified. One day she tends her garden, joyfully gathering posies, when out of nowhere, Hades comes to abduct her and pulls her into the underworld.

Persephone is separated from everything she knows and holds dear–the light, warmth, her mother. She slips into the darkness and loses herself. Devastated by her predicament, she goes into depression and denial.

Her life has been hijacked. It’s no longer her own. She will never be the person she was.

How many times have you been innocently enjoying your life when some drama or trauma abducted you from your blissful moment?

Bad news.

A break up.

A micro-managing boss.

This is Hades pulling you from your holy garden into the darkness, against your will, where you will be faced with the most important decision you can make.

Denial or Acceptance

Although Persephone’s Descent is an allegory that explains the transition from the warm, sunny days of summer to the bleak, dark days of winter, it’s a myth with another message.

This story is about choice.

Hades, god of the underworld, presents Persephone with a pomegranate, a deliciously ripe fruit. It’s a gesture of good will, but it also serves as food to nourish her.

Persephone looks at the fruit, but refuses to eat. Days go by, weeks. She grows weary and hungry, hoping her fast will miraculously return her to the garden of innocence.

Persephone wants to ignore her situation in hopes that it will go away. But that denial keeps her stuck in hell, where there is no life, only death.

Then one day, she cannot take the bleakness any longer. Persephone makes a decision and eats the fruit. Her bite is the acceptance of her fate. She decides to make peace with her situation. She eats the fruit, and with it, steps into her new life.

Because of her choice to nourish herself, Persephone begins to heal. Through healing, she becomes one with her Self.

It’s only through acceptance of her situation that she can move forward to create a healthy and new life.

She chooses life.

Where was your life hijacked?

At some point your life took an unexpected turn.

Maybe the evil queen ripped your heart out and locked it in a box; or your knight in shining armor ran off with another maiden; or your health was poisoned by a shiny red apple.

Perhaps this situation hijacked your life, linking your soul with suffering.

And maybe this situation has become the Story of Your Life, influencing your health and wellness, like Persephone’s abduction into the underworld influenced hers.

Expect it isn’t the whole story.

There’s a decision to be made.

How long are you going to stay in the darkness before you taste the sweet, delicious fruit that is yours for the taking?

When will you choose life?

Connecting with your Soul at Soul-stice

What is the BIG decision you need to make to return to wholeness?

Bits of you may have been quietly or abruptly pushed aside. Your spiritual gifts. Your purpose. Your peace of mind.

Something in you was abducted and only you have the power to call it back.

Is it time to make a choice? How much suffering will you endure before you feel ready?

SOULstice is the perfect time to go into the darkness–consciously–to explore what’s missing. Reflect on what you’ve lost so you can acknowledge your journey and make a choice to bring all of you back into the light.

Your SOULstice Ritual

I created this SOULstice ritual for you to help you call back the bits of your soul that are lost.

Supplies

One pomegranate (if you can’t find a pomegranate, an apple or any other fruit will do).
A candle.
Matches.

Ritual

Take a few moments to contemplate a situation in which you were abducted from your metaphoric holy garden.

What derailed you and became the Story of Your Life in a way that is not supporting you?

Imagine that part of you is in the underworld. This aspect of you holds part of your soul, and with it, part of your power.

It’s time to choose: will you let it linger in the underworld, or will you call it back?

If you’re ready to call it back, have the supplies on hand and imagine you are talking with a part of you that is in the underworld. Say this prayer out loud (or write your own). Feel free to change it so it resonates with you:

You are a part of me, but you were abducted into the darkness.
I know it was difficult to leave the life you cherished.
I know you felt ripped away from innocence.

Your journey was difficult and I honor it.
I acknowledge your pain.
I see your suffering.

Yet now it’s time to call you back into wholeness.

I call you back by eating this fruit, which carries the seeds of life to nourish me.
I eat the fruit and nourish myself.
I eat the fruit and make myself whole again.

May it be so.

Eat the pomegranate seeds.

Light the candle and say this:

As I light this candle, I call back all parts of me and honor the beauty of my soul.

Feel the parts of you returning and integrating into your being, and say,

May it be so.

When you’re ready, close the ritual by giving thanks and blowing out the candle.

Notice how you feel.

Happy Solstice and Hanukkah to those who celebrate.
Amy

What’s Blocking Your Connection To Source?

By Amy Brucker

A client of mine made a strong confession during our first session together:

My purpose is calling, I can feel it. I just can’t get to it.

Not for lack of trying, I’m definitely trying, but something isn’t working.

She wanted to make money by engaging her purpose. She wanted to have fun integrating her spiritual gifts into her work.

Yet at the core of her desires, what she really wanted was to feel deeply connected to her Soul. She wanted life to flow through her instead of getting stuck at the logjam created by the belief she’d inherited from her grandfather: “Poverty is a Virtue.”

Instead of flow she felt anxious.

She wasn’t getting any sleep. She was exhausted. She was getting older.

And the possibility of one more birthday without the deep Soul connection she desired was more than she could bear.

Continue reading What’s Blocking Your Connection To Source?

What If Everything You Need Is A Mile Away?

By Amy Brucker

Louise and I lived in the same neighborhood for ten years. I walked by her house on a regular basis. We never met.

One day, Louise was walking with her dog Bodhi when an inner Voice told her to take a right turn instead of her usual left. She did, and because of this, we met on the sidewalk. Something clicked between us. We exchanged numbers. We’ve been inseparable ever since.

For as long as I’ve lived here, I haven’t met anyone in this town who’s become a friend, and it’s not for lack of trying. I’ve done all sorts of things to meet people, but alas, it wasn’t in the cards.

Then one day, I met Louise. Instant BFF.

Sometimes life is like that. There’s struggle for ten years and than bam! You shift something simple, take a different turn, and open yourself up to receiving exactly what you’ve been wanting. It was there the entire time, you just didn’t see it.

Everything You Need is a (Metaphoric) Mile Away

The things you need are close to you already. If there’s anything you’re pining for, that you’re truly needing, it’s right there, you just don’t see it yet.

It might be close in the physical sense, like Louise living a mile away.

But it might also be close in the energetic sense, like a lifestyle you desire.

And it’s right there, so close you could practically touch it.

The problem is, you might be looking in the wrong place, sticking to a routine that is just a touch off where you need to be. Or you’re looking with the wrong perspective.

The point is, everything you need is a mile away. All you have to do is tune in to the Voice that’s guiding you to get there.

It might take a day. It might take ten years, but when the Voice says, “turn right”, it’s important to turn right.

How Do You Know if it’s the Right Voice?

Learning how to distinguish the Voice of your Higher Self from the Voice of Fear is a process. They have a distinctly different quality, so it’s helpful to experiment on a daily basis so you can be ready when you really need to trust your inner guidance.

The Voice of Fear usually has a force to it. It’s harsher, abrupt, demanding, commanding, pushy, sneaky.

The Voice of the Higher Self is usually a gentle or firm suggestion that’s wrapped in a sense of indifference, or perhaps calmness.

It’s important to practice discerning the difference so you know which voice is speaking to you when you most need to know.

Listen

As you go about your day, no matter what you’re doing, pay attention internally for blips of images, thoughts, words, sensations. Each one might be guidance for your journey, helping you course correct so you end up going where you most need to be to fulfill one of your desires.

It might take a minute. It might take ten years. But if you listen, you’ll get there.

Think about an area in your life where you feel stagnant and frustrated. Then think about the inner guidance you’ve been ignoring. There is likely a direct correlation between the two.

Where is your inner guidance leading you? What direction has she given that you’ve dismissed?

Interesting to think about, isn’t it.

Sweet dreaming,

Amy