By Amy Brucker
Did I mention I’m studying herbal medicine? I LOVE it!!!
Every night, after I’ve finished my dinner, I cannot wait to learn more about herbs. I even made my own Dandelion Grapefruit Bitter to aid in digestion. (And had fun creating the labels!)
This month I’m learning about the importance of a solid foundation. You see, the trick to growing successful herbs is the soil. Without a rich, fertile foundation, herbs can’t grow, and if they can’t grow, they can’t do any of their magic.
Why Women Need to Pay Close Attention to This Process
Your foundation in life is everything.
When you have the right foundation for your life you feel engaged with your purpose, joyfully inspired, and a certain lightness of being. Things flow more freely and you grow your ideas with relative ease.
When nutrients are missing, though, things don’t work out so well. You might feel depleted, crabby, irritable, or argumentative, or perhaps you go within and feel even more isolated.
And growing your purpose?
With a deficit the process is difficult, full of obstacles, and frustrating. You push important, soul-centered ideas aside and wait for that illusive “perfect time” to dive in, but of course, it never comes.
So what’s going on with your foundation?
I ask because I’ve noticed a lot of women walking around feeling totally depleted on many levels. They look happy and well-adjusted, like they’re enjoying everything about life, but secretly they’re feeling devoid of the important nutrients they need to feel whole in mind, body, and soul.
Like being nurtured, which includes being cared for, appreciated, heard, seen, and recognized.
The reason for this depletion is partly because we live in a crazy, fast-paced world that has created a me-centered, isolated existence, a direct result of people feeling too depleted to care for anyone but themselves.
In fact, I’ve been reading lately that “spiritual women” are becoming too me-centered and that they need to focus on other people by doing things like volunteering and helping those less fortunate
But volunteering to help other people, no matter how altruistic, is not the solution. It’s just more depletion.
Because the ironic twist is that women are either biologically or socially conditioned to be nurturers who give endlessly, and so, despite their own exhaustion, they give and give and give. The problem is they don’t get enough back in return.
This may seem like circular logic, but I see it happening every day.
What women get in return for their efforts is a paycheck, food on their table, and maybe a hug from their family or friends.
But those things can only sustain a woman for so long. Women need to be nurtured in mind, body, and soul. They need to feel a heartfelt connection to community, to feel loved, to feel seen, to feel heard. And that doesn’t always happen in our me-centered, isolated culture.
Let Life and Spirit Move through You More Often
I once read a story about women from an African tribe who gathered once a week to make pottery. They came together in the morning and sang all day. They sang tribal songs, ancestral songs. They enjoyed one another’s company, laughed, and had fun. An hour before their work day was over, they made the pottery. Their entire day was filled with joyful celebration, of building connection, of being seen, and feeling supported.
They were nurtured on many levels.
Creating a Sacred Foundation
Imagine what your life would be like if you sang and danced more often with women who were close to you, either literally or metaphorically, and spent fewer hours doing your work. You might feel like nothing would get done, but I suspect something else would happen.
I bet you’d feel so refreshed and rejuvenated that you’d get done exactly what you needed to get done in order to do a good job doing what you do.
Your idea of what needs to get done might shift.
You might realize you don’t need to be trolling Facebook for hours in search of something interesting.
You might find you don’t need to keep the house quite as clean as you thought you did.
And you might find that your foundation is so fertile and rich that your soulful desires grow smoothly and with joy.
It may sound impossible.
It may sound idealistic.
But let me tell you a little secret …
This is how I’ve been living my life for the past year and guess what? It works.
I haven’t perfected the art yet, but I feel in love with life every day.
My purpose is blossoming in ways I never would have imagined, with less work and more fun.
And although there are still some areas that seem slow in coming to fruition, I have a deeper understanding of why (because I need to continually tend to my foundation so it will support my new endeavors) and I have more patience than I used to.
Your Sacred Foundation
Take a moment to reflect on your foundation.
What’s working well?
What can you do to create a sacred foundation that supports you and nourishes you so you feel deeply inspired and full of life?