I’ve noticed a women-centric trend in dreamland: babies.
Forgetting you have a baby.
Forgetting to feed the baby.
Unintentionally harming the baby.
Being handed a baby.
Losing the baby.
Leaving the baby behind.
It’s a trend that speaks volumes to the number one problem I’ve noticed most women share: self-care.
The lack of self-care with women is so bad we’d call it a pandemic if it were a physical illness instead of a mental one.
But how exactly is “self-care” part of a “baby dream”, and how might these dreams help you navigate this tricky terrain if you’re one of the many women having this experience?
What is Your Dream Baby?
If you shared a baby dream with me, I’d immediately consider how the baby might be an aspect of your purpose, or something you want to do or be or experience in life.
You might say the dream out loud, substituting “baby” with “purpose” or “project” or “vision”, and see if the concept fits. For instance, imagine this is the original dream:
I dreamed I’m walking down my hallway when I hear a baby crying. I run into the room and realize I totally forgot I have a baby and it’s starving, near death. I feel horrible, but am grateful the baby didn’t die and I can now take care of it. It’s not too late.
It’s a simple dream packed with meaning, and you can re-read it like this to explore the message:
I dreamed I’m walking down my hallway when I hear my purpose crying. I run into the room and realize I totally forgot I have a purpose and it’s starving, near death. I feel horrible, but am grateful the purpose didn’t die and I can now take care of it. It’s not too late.
The baby might also represent any of the following aspects of life that feel new and vulnerable, or were left in their beginning stage:
- anything new in life
- anything left in a new/beginning stage (e.g. an unwritten book)
- anything that you feel responsible for
- a new thought/idea/way of being
- a desire for a real-life baby
- a vulnerable part of you
In other words, the dream baby could be many things, and determining the meaning may require exploration to see what fits best. (The baby can also represent many things at once.)
Whatever the dream baby represents, it’s worth investigating your relationship to it and what you need to do to create health and wellness in that area.
Finding Next Steps in the Dream
Your dreams give you clues about the current emotional, physical, and mental state that may be unconscious to your waking mind, but may be impacting your wellbeing. In other words, you may not realize you have a problem, yet it’s a problem you need to solve in order to move toward health and wholeness.
Women are super adaptable beings who are biologically programmed to succeed, which means we can fool ourselves into thinking we’re okay, even when we know something’s amiss. This means we can go through life thinking we’re fine when instead we’re silently suffering and oblivious.
But our dreams don’t lie to us. They reveal the truth about our thoughts, feelings, fears, and gifts. Knowing how to read dreams can help you bring what’s not working into alignment in a way that feels joyful.
So what can you look for in a dream to help you find those best, next steps? Look for the “before” and “after.” Most dreams have two parts, the “before” that illuminates the problem, and the “after” that offers a solution.
Using our dream example from above, the “before” is as follows:
I’m walking down my hallway when I hear a baby (e.g. purpose) crying.
The “before” explains the waking life situation that is problematic. A young, vulnerable part of my life is trying to get my attention and it’s essential that I pay attention.
The dream then reveals the simple next steps:
I run into the room and realize I forgot I have a baby (e.g. purpose) and it’s starving, near death. I feel horrible, but am relieved the baby (e.g. purpose) didn’t die and I can now take care of it. It’s not too late.
The before is simply saying, “Hey, you have a purpose that’s being ignored. The more you ignore it the louder (more problematic) it’s going to get.
The after is saying, “Go back to your initial idea or the thing that’s in an infancy stage and feed it. Notice you feel horrible. This is a sign the baby (e.g. purpose) is important to you and that you don’t really want to neglect it. Be grateful the baby (e.g. purpose) is still alive and that you are now able to feed it and bring it to life.”
Taking it a step further, “feed it” might be “write in your book” or “tend to your relationship.”
It’s equally important that you transition out of “feeling horrible” into “grateful” so you don’t stay mired in disempowerment and regret, which is something many women do once they realize they’ve wasted a lot of time by putting the purpose, project or thing on hold.
The dream is saying, “It’s not too late” There is hope.
Create Your Own Dream Medicine Remedy
If you’re having dreams about forgetting to feed or care for a baby, it might be useful to take flower essences geared toward nurturing your creativity and purpose. Here’s what I recommend:
Pomegranate helps balance the creative female energies, both inner and outer.
Quince helps establish balance with the soul’s need to express both power and love; to integrate nurturing feelings within a role which also requires authority and responsibility.
I also recommend working with someone who can help you integrate your purpose, or whatever the baby represents, into your life.
Baby dreams encourage the dreamer to take action, to remember what you’re here for, and to trust the process.
That’s good advice to follow.